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2026-08-29

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"If you don't fit in, you will be the foreigner forever": a Swiss life in Tagawa

「溶け込まないと、ずっと外国人のまま」田川に家を建てたスイス人の話

Roland is from the German speaking part of Switzerland. He now lives in Tagawa, in Fukuoka Prefecture, in a house he built.

Why Fukuoka, and Tagawa of all places? The answer was simple. His wife was born there.

Every early trip to Japan was a trip to Tagawa. They stayed around Fukuoka City and Kitakyushu. They travelled to Tokyo, Kyoto, Miyazaki and Hiroshima, but most of the time was spent in Tagawa, where her family is. She did not want to move far from them. So Tagawa it was.

Did he give anything up by moving from Switzerland? Not really, he says. He would rather talk about what he gained.

"A bigger sense of community. The Swiss are very private people."

In Switzerland, meeting a new neighbour can take weeks. People stay on their own and do not mingle.

Tagawa is the opposite. Someone moves in and everybody is interested. And this one is a foreigner. Let's go talk to him. In the area where he built his house, everyone is over 70. Somebody talks to him every day.

There is the kominkan to clean. The shrine to clean. Festivals. Everyone turns up and helps. A neighbour with a garden gives you vegetables, and you bring back omiyage when you travel. None of that happens in Switzerland.

Switzerland has four official languages. His mother tongue is Swiss German. At school it was German, French and English. Japanese came later, out of interest. Most of the French, he says, is gone.

The surprise in Japanese was the grammar.

"The grammar is easier than I expected. It is very logical. There are not many exceptions."

German, he says, is almost nothing but exceptions.

The writing is the hard part. He is a reader, and that is how he learns. Not being able to look at a Japanese text and read it straight away slows everything else down. Once he can read, the rest will come quickly. Getting there takes a while. There are a lot of kanji. He does not use Japanese at work, which does not help. And he is lazy, he adds, which does not help either.

Asked what differs most between Switzerland and Fukuoka, he answered immediately: the work culture. Then he qualified it. He has never worked inside a Japanese company. This is what friends tell him and what he reads.

Beyond work, he does not find central and northern Europe and Japan all that far apart.

Formality, for instance. It matters in Switzerland and Germany too. German has two ways of addressing someone, one for people you know and one for people you do not. American English has none of that. Everyone is on first names. British English he would put somewhere else entirely, since it stays formal, especially in business. Japan sits on the same axis as German.

Japan simply has more levels. Keigo. Your position inside the company.

"Everything has a hierarchy. It's very important to know where you stand, so you know what is polite, what you can do, what you can say."

In Switzerland your boss is still your boss. But even a department head is closer to a colleague.

What is better here? The cost of living.

Dinner out with his wife at an ordinary restaurant, eating well, comes to about 3,000 yen. The same evening in Switzerland would be around 28,000. There, you think first about whether you can go out at all.

Then he balances it. Taxes are high in Japan and low in Switzerland.

"So I wouldn't say there's something better or worse. It's just different."

Lots of small differences, and every positive has a negative on the other side of it. You get used to it. It is not that different.

Does he miss anything? Family and friends, he says, and then takes it back. He has a family here now. That cancels out. He speaks Swiss German every day at his company, so he cannot miss that either.

Food, the same. He has a raclette oven at home and buys the cheese at Costco. There is almost nothing he could get in Switzerland that he cannot get here. Cheese, milk and chocolate cost more. Then again, sushi costs more in Switzerland.

One last thing, for anyone in Switzerland thinking of moving to Fukuoka.

"Don't bring your own Swiss values and expect Japanese people to know them."

Most Swiss values sit well with Japan, he says. Being punctual. Taking your shoes off in someone's home. Those you do not have to think about.

The trouble is elsewhere. The things a Swiss person considers normal, does instinctively, and assumes everyone else understands. Do not do those here. Look at the situation first. Look at what the Japanese people around you are doing, then do the same.

"You have to fit in. If you don't fit in, you will be the foreigner forever."

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